For what it’s worth: It’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over.
– from The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
Every so often life gives us a pause: a new year, a birthday, the kids going back to school, or just a quiet moment that makes us wonder where we’re heading. It’s a chance to step back and ask whether we’re living in alignment with our heart’s desires, or just living reactively and without intent.
I see a lot of clients who just ‘don’t feel like themselves’ or want to get ‘unstuck’. Through Energetic Alignment they start moving towards a purposeful life that feels right for them.
If you’re more of an analytical thinker, then the following exercise can also be helpful. Grab yourself a journal and work through the following steps:
- Ask yourself:
- What would I like to have in my life that I don’t have right now?
- Write down what comes up and keep asking that question over again until nothing new comes up.
- What would I love to do if there were no restrictions or obstacles? How about if money was not a consideration?
- What makes me very happy?
- What makes me laugh?
- What stirs my emotions in a positive way?
- What do I usually daydream about when I think about something I’d really like to do, be or have?
- What would I love to do to help others?
- What characteristics or personality traits would I like to have that I don’t have (yet)?
- What physical attributes would I like to develop?
- What do I want for my spouse or kids?
- What do I want for others?
- What do my best friend & I do for fun?
- What did I used to do & enjoy that I don’t do now?
- For each of the things that you have written down in part 1 ask yourself: If I had that or was that, how would that make me feel? Doing this will identify the truly important ones.. you are looking for strong feelings.
- On a scale of 1-100 how badly do I want each one?
- 1–20: a whim or a passing want
- 21–40: something you think you should do, or others expect of you
- 41–60: warm
- 61–80: a real want
- 81–99: important and internally motivated
- 100: your heart’s desire. It will make you feel truly happy and fulfilled.
Finally assess what has come up for you as your key priorities and most importantly, start making some small changes to move towards those priorities each day.
Most importantly, slow down and be patient and kind to yourself 🦋
